New relationships are always exciting, intriguing, and passionate. We enjoy spending time with each other and experience fun moments without noticing small behaviors of each other. We may be too enthusiastic for our new love that we pay less attention to establish a good foundation for a long-lasting relationship.
We made a list of 10 early relationship mistakes that can come back to bite you in the future.
10. You’re putting your personal life on hold.
In the beginning of a relationship, we want to spend every waking moment with our new partner — we make ourselves available for all mutual actitivies with our partner, and spend time communicating via text or phone call. We take away intimate moments with families and old friends.
Why it’s bad: It can start off with just giving up certain friends, but then it will move on to switching jobs, moving to another country, or losing contact with your loved ones. It’s getting too late when you notice your loss and unable to repair the relationships that are gone.
How to fix it: Remember that healthy relationships always involve some degree of independence, so try to divide your free time according to the 50-30-20 rule — no more than 50% with your significant other, 30% with your friends and family, and 20% alone.
9. You’re tolerating bad behavior.
There are a lot of red flags that have been ignored or lightened the weight during relationship, and focus on the good aspects. Everyone has flaws and nothing wrong with being positive and supportive. However, ugly signs such as regularly showing up late, or cancelling plans last minute, breaking-up threatening, insensitively commenting on your look, violating your personal space and time, etc are not making any relationship healthier.
Why it’s bad: If you ignore these warning signs of a future toxic relationship for too long, one day you may realize that you’ve invested a lot of your time and energy in someone who’s been treating you badly for years.
How to fix it: Making it clear but don’t be demanding and fussy. Start by expressing politely your thoughts and opinions, such as “I can’t stand it when someone is always late,” or “I’d like our dates to be just you and me.” If this doesn’t work, stick with your own standards and move on.